When you date someone it's not suppose to be stressful, it's suppose to be an adventure. It's suppose to make you feel better about yourself. Your partner is just that, a partner. If it is stressing anyone out, it just isn't going to work. This happens and it's okay. The question is what do you do about it? To me, it's not hard. Break up with them. Don't lead them on. Don't do whatever you think is best for them. Sometimes you need to do what's best for you. If you're stressed and in a relationship it will kill you. In the long run, it will kill the other person as well. Now where is the good in that? No where. My point.
However, the break up won't be the hard part. It's the days, weeks, sometimes months after the break up that's the hardest. You try to be friends, sometimes that works. Both parties have to be willing to be friends. Then again, sometimes it's better to completely let go, no matter how hard it seems at the time.
To me, what makes it worse is when you know deep down how much you really care about that person. You've only known them for a short amount of time, but they're there. They're in your mind. You worry about them. You hope they're okay, that they had a good day. You want them to know that you're there for them. You can try all the time, but if they won't let you in?...you're just wasting everyone's time.
The feelings will go away. It could take a long long long long time, but then someone else will come along. Someone will come who takes everything away. All the bad, even the good. They just make you seem like you're floating because they make you so happy. Of course people will fight, all relationships have fights in them. Don't settle and don't sit around just wondering what you did wrong. You could've done everything right, but if it's not with the right person none of it will matter anyways.
That is so true. Finding the right fit means everything.
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